Posted in Pregnancy on 02/16/2010 02:08 am by admin
No First Response pregnancy tests EVAP lines?
It took two trials and that both had a very very very very faint pink line. Me and my mate put in different lights and different angles to see if we have seen things, but both are seen. The next day, she was still there, I showed my sister and my mother. Both have been too!
I had light pink lines first response and I was pregnant. You can try again three to five days for your body can more pregnancy hormones. : D
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HOW DOES IT WORK? Human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) is a hormone, produced by the developing placenta shortly after the conception and secreted into the urine. The pregnancy test contains antibodies which specifically react with this hormone. HOW TO READ THE RESULTS Negative (not pregnant): Only one color band appears, in the Control Zone. No apparent band on the Test Zone. This indicates that no…
Posted in Pregnancy on 02/14/2010 09:59 pm by admin
more torque q …….?
Hi ladies, me again lol, any1 know of a due date calculator that can change the phase leutal? I than mine about 16 days from the date of me, iv never thought of that before the majority of sites recorded as RNT lol im pregnant just three weeks, but the hospital did two tests. 2 im scared to do my own is so stupid? xxx well do you know anywhere you can get a pregnancy diary so that I can remember pain every day / etc pain and I can post images hump week? or I'm going to use my laptop? lol I know I'm way ahead of me, but I can not xxx (I changed my name 2 lol) Thanks Luv ya xxxxx
www.babycenter.com could try to see if they have a better calculator due date. I would say you must make your own newspaper. You can put whatever you want in this type of scrapbooking … etc. I'm happy for you. Enjoy your pregnancy and stay informed.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 02/11/2010 05:11 am by admin
horrible pregnancy??
is pregnancy horible for everyone or there are people i mean depending upon person to person it could be smooth without pain???is yoga beneficial during pregnancy?
I’ve got 2 kids, both pregnancies were pretty easy for me. Other than when I had a stomach virus, I just threw up 1 time during the first pregnancy. I wasn’t really sick much. I had some heartburn, not too bad, it was relieved with Tums. No other problems, other than getting kinda uncomfortable near the end with each one. When you’re 8-9 months pregnant it’s hard to be comfortable, lol. All in all though, I loved being pregnant. I felt wonderful most of the time and was always in a good mood. Other than being more aware of what I ate, I didn’t change much else about my lifestyle.
Posted in Pregnancy on 02/05/2010 08:38 pm by admin
Diet in Pregnancy: Please Pass the Salt
Some of the most vital components of the best diet in pregnancy come in the smallest packages. Salt is one such example. Cravings for salty foods are common and often dismissed as a funny quirk of the pregnant state of mind. Quick dismissals of food craving undermine the body’s attempts to communicate its needs for a healthy diet in pregnancy.
Virtues of Salt in Pregnancy
At one time, salt was listed under the heading of things to avoid during pregnancy. Its consumption during gestation has been controversial for some time. In recent years however, the medical community has reconsidered.
Salt is now recommended for expectant mothers to use freely according to their taste requirements as part of a healthy diet in pregnancy. It has been shown to reduce bloating, increase energy levels and improve general comfort.
All Salt is Not the Same
Now that the name of salt has been cleared from pregnancy infamy, a general chow fest on all foods salty is not in order. Just remember the salt that the body needs is not the fried, processed fatty foods that so often serve as salt conveyance mechanisms.
French fries and sodium-laden processed foods are not good options for getting the needed salt. Simply setting a saltshaker on the dinner table and sprinkling healthy home cooked vegetables, lean meats and other foods to taste is much preferred.
Sea Salt vs. “Regular Salt”
Every expectant mother wants to give the very best to the new life growing within the womb. Making wise food selections for diet in pregnancy is one of the best ways to protect baby and help mom’s health as well.
Salt, like so many other vital nutrients, can be consumed in various forms. Some salt sources are much better than others. The current superstar of healthy salt is sea salt.
Sea salt is less processed than regular table salt. Less processing translates into two very important health factors. First, during the processing undergone by mined mineral salts, many toxic chemicals are used to dissolve, clean and refine the raw rock salt into a useable form. Most of these chemicals are removed from the final product but traces of these chemicals remain.
Secondly, mineral salt as it is refined is stripped of other vital mineral nutrients naturally occurring as companions. Sea salt is served up without the need for complex processing. Trace minerals remain without any added toxic chemicals.
When satisfying that salty craving know that it is perfectly alright to indulge as long as the salt choices are part of a healthy diet for pregnancy.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 10/08/2009 08:07 pm by admin
Funny stories to share about pregnancy or childbirth?
I have 22 weeks. I saw the doctor today for my checkup. The doctor felt my stomach (I think to feel my uterus?) And my daughter started to kick the crap out of the hands. Then he took the heart monitor and she began to kick to. He never does when my husband or I try to feel his sudden … in fact, leave traces on foot, if we put our hands on my belly. It is only when foreigners try to feel her move to feel even more difficult.
My daughter was breech 32 weeks, was trying to help her shift (which has been done before!) By myself with the head restraint on the ground and my ass in the air. My sister and brother (13yrs and 10 years) I always thought it was funny how sometimes I accidentally fart. ANYWAY One day I was resting with my butt in the air when my sister said something funny and laughed and I peed my pants! As you can imagine almost two years later, and continue to pay me about it and the pleasure of telling people when they SIS big wet!
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Posted in Pregnancy on 08/06/2009 07:33 pm by admin
Has anyone ever had a false positive using an EPT digital pregnancy test?
I got a positive on my first test, and other brands have resulted in negative, so I am curious as to whether this is common among digital tests
I am waiting on a blood test and wont find out until tomorrow morning, but my urine also came back negative from the office as well as like 6 other brands of tests including 2 first response. I need to ease my mind, the wait is killing me.
Nope. The opposite was true for me. The EPT digitals are among the most accurate tests.
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I would go for a blood test and start taking prenatal vitamins just in case.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 07/25/2009 05:31 pm by admin
How To Hide A Pregnancy
For most couples, the joy of parenthood is the absolute delight. The birth of a new life, as it goes in the realms of hearsay, settles the foundation for ever-growing love in the lives of the parturient duo. But from the moment the pregnancy test or PT, as it is referred to in the common linguistics, comes out positive, the mother is more worried about the tummy pushing out of limits than anything else around her.
People expect a pregnant woman to be full of joy and be blooming at times, always looking forward to when that little angel would come to life, but it isn’t that easy to hide nasty feelings creeping into your mind. Of all the thoughts that flood into an expectant’s mind, one that lingers a while is ‘how to stay fit’ or ‘how not to look pregnant’.
For first-timers though, the joy is too overwhelming and ‘showing’ occurs later. But, for ones that have gone through the process of birthing a child before, worries lie not so far off. Hormonal changes in the body tend to make the person a bit low and lazy oozed with tiredness and nausea. With such emotions treading into the bearer’s head, they would prefer a cozy place to rest themselves upon all day long rather that to do exercise.
Here are three tips that are recommended for mothers-to-be to help hide their pregnancy:
1.Exercise: Do remember that the exercise is the key to staying fit and healthy. A brisk walk would always do more good in your baby’s and your favor. 2.Eat healthy: Eating nutritious and healthy food not only ensures the birth of a healthy baby but also help your baby fight out the various post-natal diseases. A good metabolic rate is a better indicator that the mother and child are healthy. 3.Catnaps are not bad but slumping on the sofa is: Pregnant women get tired more often because of the enormous amount of hormonal processes occurring inside their body. Catnaps are good to doze off the lazy afternoons but slumping onto the sofa in front of a tube might do you no good and would cultivate more fat to your belly.
Suzan, 31, is a mother of an eleven month old boy, living in West London and is expecting another baby. The constant upsetting moments of handling a tot alongside her normal daily routine is becoming a nightmare for the lady, who herself happens to be a general practioner. She knows she should not burden herself with the toddler’s tantrums. “Most of my day is spent either cleaning up the mess my child makes or arguing with my husband that he should be more responsible of the child,” she says.
These constant upsets make a woman low and tends to bring her energy levels down to zero. She’d feel tired and exhausted, bringing her to a state where her fitness is always at stake. Pregnancy puts a woman at the receiving end of a lot of advice and mostly criticism as well from the others around. But in the end it is always important that you do what you presume is right for you. After all you are the one holding the baby.
Pregnancy is nonetheless a moment to cherish with your partner, a moment to live, a moment to rejoice, because at the end of it all lies the most wonderful gift you could have in store for him. Don’t think of pregnancy as a burden rather think of it as a beautiful gift lapped into your womb.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 07/19/2009 04:26 pm by admin
Do you feel like you “know” the ladies on YahooAnswers pregnancy?
I keep finding myself, quoting or talking about what I have read here on Yahoo Answers ( I check it out almost every day!) as if I actually know you ladies! I catch myself saying, ” The pregnant lades online said …” or ” I was chatting online …..”
Its so funny, because there are no one-on-one conversations but I feel like there is …
Does anyone else, go home and tell hubby what the ladies on Yahoo talk about?
LOL! That’s funny because I totally do that! I’ll tell my fiance “I heard that ….” He’ll always ask me “Did you read that somewhere, did you actually hear it from someone, or was it from the pregnant ladies online?” He makes fun of me! LOL! You’re not alone! That’s the beauty of Yahoo Answers in the pregnancy section. It helps you know that you’re not the only pregnant woman in the world and what you’re going through is quite common, and you’ll survive.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 06/25/2009 01:12 am by admin
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Posted in Pregnancy on 04/28/2009 04:26 am by admin
Adopting a child means the possibility of a family that could not previously. It is a happy time, marked by fear and joy. However, although most families can experience the construction of a family from the beginning – the day they bring home a newborn, even days, discover they are pregnant – Adoptive families are not always so fortunate. Sometimes the child is at home, dating back many months or a year. New parents miss the first precious photos maternity plastic tanks, identical bands who never say anything new in his life, leaving the hospital, small clothes, diapers, other baby. "
Sometimes the baby at home who bring their own personality and traits that new parents need to learn, instead of developing together. Sometimes you lose in the bottles and nipples, the first solid food sample, the first step or first word. Gifts adoptive parents were able to relive those memories (but never replace).
Maybe you could ask the new parents about their "first" with his new baby. The first time I saw her baby, the first After holding him. If the baby pictures are available for caregivers who looked after him before being adopted, such as photos, hospital, or even when they were older, try to get them. The fact that they were not the parents at the time, no need to go side to see their baby before they came into their lives. Then turn your thoughts and pictures in a book with pictures of themselves together. A record is a pleasant memory if the new parents stopped going to events booked for bringing a newborn into a family.
In the same vein as an album, a video for new parents to "talk" their child would also be an excellent way to preserve your thoughts on this special moment. There are many songs that could be used as a means of images of new parents interact with their child, or telling the camera how they feel.
If a child is adopted a little older, perhaps the best clothing for a young child – after all, new parents can not have been able to cure their son or daughter for the new baby clothes, and had to go directly to the joint children. You might appreciate the opportunity their elders dress in a beautiful place, "even if it's just a baby pajamas.
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The adoption of a child should be commemorated, and a little thought, it can be – in a very special and unique.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 01/16/2009 02:29 pm by admin
Viewing Childbirth Cartoons – Best Way To Cheer A Pregnant Woman
Most people look out for childbirth cartoons over the internet. One could find them without much struggle. Any cartoons concerning childbirth can enlighten pregnant woman’s imagination. These cartoons cheer up even fathers to be and grandparents. Websites manifesting cartoons relating to childbirth and pregnancy make use of these cartoons to generate giggles and chats among web surfers. No matter whether you subscribe cartoons or are trying to find one to attest to a card or some handmade scrapbook, internet would be a good option for the download. You could gift or email loads of these cartoons to cheer up your loved ones.
There are purchasable cartoons, free cartoons and sometimes those with graphics including some which you could write your own. You could cross-stitch a cartoon on coffee mugs or on baby quilts. Cartoons could be appended on to almost any novelty gifts. You could have mouse pads customized with your favorite cartoons to bring a laugh every time you see them. Shower decorations or personalized gifts with cartoons on would impress every mommy to be.
Stationeries and T-shirts with childbirth cartoons could make good gifts just like some homemade and humorous e-cards and cards. Apparently, pregnancy could be tough emotionally for any woman and sending such greetings could chuckle out humor in anyone, perking them up.
Stocks of cartoons online, magazines, newspapers etc are available which are dedicated to pregnancy and childbirth. These could be put on greeting cards and t-shirts or some homemade gifts accompanying them with joke books. It would bring a chuckle on every pregnant woman and almost everyone who is expecting the arrival of a baby.
You could send the cartoons to your pregnant friends. They also prove great for baby showers. Laughter or humor act as great medicines to brighten up days, equivalent to any gifts.
If you are looking about childbirth cartoons for your homemade greeting cards, you could find lots of online resources allowing buying cartoons. You would also know about places where you could hunt on them. You could purchase cartoons and then write your own funny lines to add to it. These would act as personalized gifts coming through heart. Writing lines customizing your girlfriend’s name on it would bring a laugh to top it up. This could be included in scrap books as well.
Scrapbooks connecting to this media could have printable cartoons added as pregnancy scrapbooks are created. Collecting and saving information related to ultrasound scan pictures, hospital details or other appointments could assist you in creating memorable scrapbooks on your pregnancy. The essence of cartoon in this would act more personalized and customized.
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Posted in Pregnancy on 01/11/2009 12:30 am by admin
Pregnancy causes different reactions from women. Although some women were glad of the possibility of pregnancy, other women may be in difficulty. In any case, A pregnancy test will give you the answer that can or wants to hear. Here are some common questions about those pregnancy tests:
1. What are the symptoms of pregnancy? Common symptoms of pregnancy miss period, nausea, fatigue and breast tenderness. If you have some or all of these symptoms, it is time to take a pregnancy test.
2. How does a pregnancy test? A pregnancy test detects a hormone called gonadotropin human chorionic certain, more commonly called hCG. This hormone is made when a fertilized egg is implanted in the uterus. It is found in the urine of a women or blood while pregnant. The amount of hCG increases rapidly every day she is pregnant.
3. What are the different types of pregnancy tests? There are two main types of tests: Urine tests and blood tests.
Urine tests can be performed in the office doctor or in the privacy of your own home. Most women choose to pass a test of a first home and confirm the results with a doctor later. This type of test is inexpensive, is private and is much more convenient than other types of evidence. If used at the right time, this type of evidence can be very precise and can tell if you are pregnant a week after a menstrual period.
Blood tests done in the doctor's office and are not as common as urinalysis. Blood tests can detect pregnancy as early as six to eight days after ovulation occurs before a home test. Without But it takes longer to get results of blood tests.
There are two types of pregnancy tests. The first is a qualitative test that checks hCG if a woman has hCG. These tests can confirm whether a woman is pregnant ten days after a period is missed. A quantification, secondly, to measure the exact amount of hCG in the blood is not a woman. The quantitative determination can be very useful in terms of control of all the problems during pregnancy.
4. Pregnancy tests accurate? The home tests are accurate about 97% of the time. Of course it is important to follow the instructions carefully. Accuracy also depends on how long you take the test after pregnancy. Numerous studies show that you should wait at least a week after a period was lost before any test. Blood tests, however, are more accurate than urine tests.
5. home pregnancy tests can be the problem? Yes, of course they can. Many home tests, to take another test in a few days. Menstrual cycles vary from woman, which means that Results may also vary. Although ovulation may occur on day nine for some women, ovulation occurs on day 21 for others. If a woman taking the test too early in the pregnancy, you may get a false negative result. Many other things can affect the accuracy of home pregnancy tests, is better to try a second time.
6. Is there anything that would affect the results of a pregnancy test at home? Most prescription drugs and prescription, including antibiotics and birth control have no effect on the results of a laboratory test. The only medications that can cause a false positive are those with hCG them.
Alcohol and illicit drugs should not affect the results of a pregnancy test at home. Of course, you try to have a baby, would preferable to avoid these substances as much as possible.
This Article is written by Lena Butler, from TestCountry the contributor of Health Testing & Drug Testing Guides, Reviews, Information & Facts. More information on the subject is at abouttesting.testcountry.com, and resources from other home health and wellness testing articles are used such as Home Pregnancy Tests.
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Death of an Infant in Oaxaca, Mexico
Where divergent religious customs merge
Alvin Starkman M.A., LL.B.
Daniel Perez Gonzalez was a beautiful baby. His parents Flor and Jorge thought so; my wife Arlene and I agreed. Few are able to share our certainty, though, because we were among the very few to see him alive. Daniel was born in one of Oaxaca’s well-known clinics. I welcomed him into the world along with Arlene, our then 13-year-old daughter Sarah, and Daniel’s abuelita (grandmother) Chona. From the womb, the nurse passed our newest extended family member into three sets of anxiously loving arms—Chona’s, those of his big sister Carmela (Sarah’s closest friend in Oaxaca), and then Sarah.
We have a long and colorful history together, my Jewish family in my previous hometown of Toronto and my devoutly Catholic family here in Oaxaca. Chona is our comadre and matriarch of her family. Not six months earlier she and her grandchildren had shouted Mazel Tov at Sarah’s Bat Mitzvah in Toronto. Over the years we have raised many a glass of mezcal at milestone birthdays including quince años (the fiesta when a young girl turns fifteen, with similarities to the Bat Mitzvah); we have eaten matzoh together for Passover in Toronto; and we have welcomed many a Christmas, New Year’s and Dia de Muertos together in Oaxaca.
But it was Daniel’s death that reinforced for me, through much laughter and many tears, the profound irrelevance of cultural differences in the face of universal rituals surrounding death.
On the day of his birth, it was easy to imagine that Daniel’s life would unfold like Sarah’s. At 8 pounds, and with a full head of black hair, the baby looked extremely healthy. Like my wife’s, Flor’s pregnancy had been full-term. Like Sarah, Daniel was born by caesarian section;like Sarah, his mother’s umbilical chord had been wrapped around his neck, causing temporary respiratory distress and the need for a few days in an incubator. But we didn’t worry, his father and cousin both obstetricians with connections in the Oaxacan medical community. He would receive the best post-natal care available, and we would dance at his wedding one day.
But then their paths diverged. After two days of life, we mourned little Daniel’s death of respiratory distress, beside his coffin in Chona’s living room, with family, friends and compadres.
Between the birth and the death came a crazy-quilt of only-in-Mexico experiences that resonated with my memories of the mourning process my Canadian family had undergone when my father Sam died a few years earlier.
Most Oaxacans accept that death hits you at home—literally. Daniel left the hospital in a white, ornately-adorned satin-lined coffin, bound not for a funeral home, but for the livingroom of the family compound. Once he was settled atop a table covered with fresh linen, with a large silver crucifix behind him, my compadre Javier and I were dispatched to the Mercado de Abastos, to buy white gladioli and flower arrangements. This was a far cry from the somber discussion of formal arrangements at Toronto’s Steeles Memorial after my father’s death.
In this passionate and expressive country, even death rites are incomplete without the drama of shouting and accusations. At the cemetery I learned that Daniel was to be interred in a low tomb-like grave atop Tia Lolita, his great-great-aunt who had died in 1990, who was layered over yet another relative who had died in 1982. But when we met with the head undertaker, el presidente, at Lolita’s graveside only hours after Daniel’s death, we were advised that annual fees hadn’t been paid in ten years. Much shouting ensued, but in the end, after heated debate, el presidente had successfully “extorted”, as was his right, thousands of pesos for arrears of government taxes and administrative fees—plus about 1000 pesos in the likely event that Daniel would require a boveda (literally a vault, the rebar reinforced concrete slabs designed to keep the grave’s occupants in an orderly configuration). And we still weren’t done. Only once Chona had presented sufficient historical documents to convince everyone that she indeed had the requisite authority to bury Daniel alongside Lolita were the appropriate certificate and receipts issued.
Back at Chona’s home mourners had begun to arrive. Shortly thereafter Jorge and I dropped off 150 various pan dulce, to be used to dip into the traditional hot chocolate served to those attending such gatherings. I then experienced another profound frisson of déjà vu . The notably slower pace of Oaxaca’s mañana society was gone. With efficient dispatch, Chona and family transformed the home into a grieving chamber, arranging for necessities such as chair rentals, and ordering attendees off to kitchen duty. There under Chona’s roof I traveled back in time to my mother’s kitchen, crowded with friends and relatives I hadn’t seen in years, just after my father’s funeral. I could hear my mother’s friend Rayla organizing who would bring what meals into our home during shiva—the week of mourning that follows the burial of a Jew.
Then there were the inevitable tragicomic moments. When I gave my father’s eulogy, I couldn’t resist telling a story about him that made reference to a shared moment that involved passing gas. In Mexico, the black humor of death is even more visceral. When Chona and I went back to the cemetery to ensure that preparations for the burial were well underway, we found el presidente and his aide a half-foot down, at the top concrete plate of the vault—along with part of a human jawbone. Chona was outraged, and began shouting, “that can’t be Tia Lolita!” We came up with many theories for the mystery bone, all revolving around the amorous activities of the dead, none repeatable in this newspaper. That kept us going until we finally came across the complete skull of Tia Lolita, still covered with the traditional fine headcloth to prevent mosquito bites. We ultimately concluded that a few years back someone else had been buried alongside Lola. Mystery of the extra jawbone solved. Here in southern Mexico, multiple burials in the same grave, at times at different levels, and at times involving the removal of bones after several years of non-payment of fees, may occur. In any event, in return for a handsome gratuity el presidente agreed to clear away a spot for Daniel’s cajita, and hide Lolita’s head and any other remaining bones in a sack at one end of the grave opening. The funeral would take place the next day, not unlike the dispatch with which Jews bury their dead—but very different from the traditional adult Oaxacan death custom characterized by several days of prayer, visitation and other rituals prior to burial, similar in purpose and function to the Jewish period of shiva after the interment.
Later that evening back at the house, we listened to a cassette recording of nursery rhymes. Although we in the Judaic tradition are not permitted music during mourning, these tunes seemed appropriate. Arlene tenderly placed a small rattle beside Daniel, in accordance with local custom. A young woman led a 20-minute prayer, strikingly similar in nature to the Kaddish or mourners’ prayer in a shiva home. Then more food—a rich mole negro with bolillos, tortillas, salsa—and more prayer. When the padre finally arrived late, there was the obligatory humor about the clergy; someone joked that he had just shown up for a meal.
By the following afternoon, we were placing a bountiful display of flowers into the back of a pick-up. Javier and I took final photographs of the baby, and then Jorge placed his son into the back of a 1980s white stationwagon, for his final journey.
The cemetery ritual combined the continuing familiarity of my own Canadian experiences with Mexicana. A few soft prayers, a few handsful of earth placed atop the coffin, and incongruously our two congenial cemetery workers placed the concrete slab back between the remaining portions of the lid to the vault, then mixed and applied cement to seal the boveda. Reminiscent of Jewish custom, Chona asked Javier and I to assist with the shoveling of earth, then invited everyone home for comida.
Back at the house there was no music. Idle chatter took its place. Eventually, once most of the people had left, and only the barren white altar and the slowly burning mourners’ candles remained, Arlene and I decided to go downtown for a walk, sad and emotionally drained, but oddly comforted. After a Oaxacan funeral for a Catholic baby, I felt exactly the way I did the first time I walked outside after arising from my father’s shiva.
About the Author
Alvin Starkman received his Masters in Social Anthropology in 1978. After teaching for a few years he attended Osgoode Hall Law School in Toronto, thereafter embarking upon a career as a litigator until 2004. Alvin now resides in Oaxaca, where he writes, leads small group tours to the villages, markets, ruins and other sites, is a consultant to film production companies, and operates Casa Machaya Oaxaca Bed & Breakfast. ( http://www.oaxacadream.com ) .
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